I love a good historical drama, I’m a sucker for anything that gives us a peek into the way life used to be.
It seems to me, in the Victorian era, that your Character was your most valuable asset. Your word, your handshake, whether you honoured your agreements and paid your debts, was openly discussed in society.
Were you honourable? That was the first question someone asked before they would do business with you or allow you to accompany their daughter.
In one drama a man had written someone a check and it bounced because of insufficient funds, that was enough to make him a social outcast. Imagine the implications if that were true of today’s banking.
From Character to Confidence
At some point, we shifted our values and decided that being honourable, “your character”, was not as important as being confident.
Now we’re in pursuit of this great attribute. She looked confident, he presented to the Board with confidence, I want my child to feel self-confident, this elusive thing is what people strive for.
It doesn’t matter if a project isn’t well researched, doesn’t appear sustainable or carries hidden risk – if it is presented with enough confidence people will buy in.
We’ve stopped questioning and valuing that person’s character. Donald Trump seems to personify this – he is supremely confident and people are attracted to that, do they think he’s honourable – I’m not so sure.
Where will Confidence lead us?
Confidence is important – please don’t get me wrong. I do a lot of coaching to help people find their confidence. It allows you to be heard when you have an opinion. It helps you push away anxiety and try something new. Continue reading