Having a difficult manager can really damage your self-esteem. It wipes away years of confidence and makes you wonder if you are good at anything.
When you are in the throes of it, you have to make a decision to stay or to go. You may also be wondering if you can flex enough to make the relationship work. Those are tough decisions and you may want to talk to someone that can help you think it through.
Eventually, the crisis will pass. Either your boss moves off, you leave the company or you change departments. In some rare instances, you find a better way to work together and continue on.
Now what? How do you get yourself back up to speed, feeling confident and able to face the new challenges?
Start with an honest evaluation of what you do well
This is no time to be modest, clear your head of the negative comments your boss tossed out like crumbs. You need to remember your strengths.
Picture yourself when you felt positive, sure and professional. Hold that picture in your head. Now, ask yourself, what am I really good at? Think about where you add value and what you bring to the business that helps.
What would your colleagues say they appreciate about your work? Are you the one that can picture the strategy? Are you the safe pair of hands and great at delivering? Are you the person that pulls everyone together with a rallying cry?
You have a career you’ve built one project at a time, think about the best ones and what your role was in making it happen.
Find a support system
While you are putting some balm on the bruised areas, this is a good time to reconnect with the people who have been positive and supportive in the past. Touch base with old colleagues, your favourite boss, the friend that always says you’re clever. Continue reading